I have often stated that our Destiny is in our own hands. We can make it or mar it. I have written a post about destiny here before.
In his book, "The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People", Stephen Covey, the author states that the 10% of life is made up of what happens to you; 90% of life is decided by how you react.
Our reactions often change the whole game plan for better or for worse. That is why, as I have said earlier, our Destiny is in our own hands.
By saying so, I do not mean at all that one should not react. In fact, REACT. React the way you want to. Burst out if you wish to. Do not be too submissive. But whatever the situation, you be in control of the situation rather than the situation controlling you. Hence, carve your own destiny.